You were born to be happy… What happened?

It may be stating the obvious, but you weren’t born depressed, anxious or with low self-esteem.

You weren’t born with fears or phobias that hold you back from doing what you really want to do.

You didn’t come into this world feeling cursed to be always poor, unhappy or in bad relationships.

You were born with everything you need in order to be happy and successful.

So what happened?

Over time, we all have experiences that undermine our sense of being in perfect harmony with ourselves and the world. These experiences can be small ‘t’ traumas  like being criticised, teased or rejected, or big ‘T’ Traumas like car accidents, abuse, neglect, or death of a parent or sibling.

If we don’t have the tools to deal with all these traumas, they leave ‘traces’ in us that can be reactivated when we remember the event, or experience something similar to it.

To get a sense of this, think of the most humiliating experience you’ve ever had. Did you feel something shift in your body – like a tightening in your chest or a sinking feeling in your stomach? That’s the trace left by the trauma.

These memories of our emotional and physical responses to past events that made us feel fearful, sad, angry, helpless, hopeless, or abandoned, are triggered by current experiences that remind our unconscious mind of the original trauma:

  • Years after being teased by his classmates for forgetting his lines in the school play, the sales executive still breaks into a cold sweat every time he has to address the weekly staff meeting.
  • The woman whose father physically abused her when she ‘back-chatted’ him, still feels overwhelming panic when she is involved in even the most minor confrontation.
  • The child whose mother was severely depressed and unable to meet his emotional needs, grows into an adult who feels unworthy of love, and unconsciously sabotages his close relationships so that he always ends up feeling abandoned.

There are endless variations on this theme, that I’ve encountered in myself and my clients.

The good news is that there is an astonishingly powerful, yet easy-to-learn, set of techniques that can erase these traces from our systems, so that we’re free to respond to current and future experiences without being tied down by the baggage from the past.

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) are the leading force in the emerging field of energy psychology. The official EFT website, www.eftuniverse.com, provides information on, and standardised training in, EFT.

I use EFT (and other meridian tapping techniques including Matrix Reimprinting) in a highly intuitive way, using them to identify and resolve core issues in your life that hold you back from being happy and healthy.

I also blend EFT with other philosophies and techniques that I’ve found to be useful and effective, such as Transactional Analysis and neurolinguistic programming (NLP).

Because my core philosophy is to empower clients to be in charge of their own health and well-being, I will also teach you how to use EFT by yourself at home, so you can effectively deal with everyday stress, and fast-track your journey to inner peace and fulfillment.

EFT is very gentle, but profoundly effective. And it works even if you don’t know exactly what happened to make you the way you are now! All you need to get started with EFT, is a willingness to learn the technique and apply it to the areas of your life that you’re unhappy with.

Please note that EFT is not a 'treatment' for any psychological disorder, and it's perfectly safe to use it while you're on medication for depression, anxiety, or OCD.

Many of my clients find that as they work through their past traumas, and use EFT in their everyday lives to release anger, fear, sadness, loneliness and other distressing emotions as they arise, they are able to reduce or eliminate their depression or anxiety medications.

I encourage clients to work with a sympathetic, knowledgeable doctor, to safely wean off prescribed medication.

You can read some of my clients’ stories of using EFT for personal transformation right here.

I have a more detailed article on EFT including case histories on using EFT to overcome eating disorders, procrastination, common cold symptoms, relationship break-up feelings and much more right here.


I use EFT and Matrix Reimprinting extensively with my clients, to help remove the internal obstacles that hold them back from being happy and healthy.

If you would like to learn more about how EFT and Matrix Reimprinting can help you:

  • Overcome depression, anxiety, panic attacks, fears and phobias;
  • Heal from physical and emotional trauma;
  • Get out of toxic relationships and into healthy, supportive ones;
  • Erase your old relationship programming, so you can be the parent and partner you really want to be;
  • Discover and rewrite limiting beliefs that stop you from even setting goals, let alone achieving them; or
  • Achieve your personal best in athletic performance, career or other goals,


then apply for a Roadmap to Optimal Health Consultation.

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